Many couples who walk down the aisle, knew they were making a big mistake when they did.
But here are five warning signs that will help you decide if "I do" is the right decision.
1. You don't get along with his family
Many couples have conflict with their future in-laws before they even walk down the aisle but choose to go through with the wedding hoping all the family stuff will "just work out." Don't fall into this trap because it seldom does. Issues with in-laws tend to get worse over time — especially when children come along. If his family is causing a problem in your relationship before you're married, you may want to rethink marriage.
2. You've dated for less than a year
Most people are on their best behavior for the first year of a relationship. After that, people let their guard down a little bit and you get to see what a person is really like for all four seasons. This is important since you will be spending the rest of your lives together — you will need to know if your partner is someone you can live with on a day-to-day, long-term basis after the honeymoon phase of your relationship is over.
3. You haven't agreed about kids, careers, and other fundamental issues
So many couples get caught up in the wedding planning that they put the most important fundamentals of marriage aside. Will you have kids? How many? What religion will you raise your children? Where will you live? Will one of you be a stay-at-home parent? How will holidays be handled? How will housework be divided? You need to have an open conversation about all of these things and ensure you are on the same page before saying "I do."
4. You lack conflict resolution skills
A lot of couples write off arguments before a wedding as "wedding day jitters," but if you have horrendous arguments and fights with your partner that go unresolved, you may want to consider calling off your wedding until the two of you work on your conflict resolution skills. Long-term relationships require good conflict resolution skills and the good news is that they can be learned if both couples are committed to doing so.
5. Your gut feeling is telling you to call it off
We have gut feelings for a reason and where most of us get into trouble is when we dismiss them. If your gut feeling is telling you to call off your wedding, it's probably a good idea to listen to that feeling and at the very least postpone your wedding until the feeling goes away. If you are meant to be together, that current gut feeling that is telling you "don't do it," will eventually pass. So take your time.
Source: Your Tango