Who says you need to be married to go on a honeymoon. According to this happy young single social influencer, you do not.
37-year-old Brittany Allyn got tired of waiting for the perfect partner and decided to go on a honeymoon on her own. Back in 2022, she traveled to London and froze her eggs, then booked her dream vacation in France and Italy.
“I think everyone has days where they’re like, I want that, the deep romance – but mostly I don’t feel pressure to get married,” said Allyn in a Youtube video. ” I heard this quote once that if you got married at 50, to the love of your life, you could be with this person for 30 years.”
“My longest relationship was around five years and that felt like forever, so 30 years to be with the love of your life makes me so happy, I’m not in a rush,” continued the influencer.
Allyn credits her parents for her outlook on life. They encouraged her to live her life to the fullest.
“I had really supportive parents, realists and they’re just like, ‘Britt, we want you to experience everything in life to have so much fun’,” said Allyn.
Allyn said that her parents told her “Marriage is amazing. Kids are amazing, but it’s not this perfect solution and it’s really hard, not everyone gets a perfect marriage or, you know, perfect children.”
Instead of being influenced by societal expectations, she decided to take life into her own hands and live it her way.
“My 20-year-old self was completely different, I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom,” confessed Allyn. “I was in love with a guy that I knew from high school and I thought that ‘we are going to live in the same town and get married and have kids by 27 or 30’, and I would have some passion projects on the side.”
“But I was just going to be a mom and never leave Seattle but at 25, we broke up and I have gone in a completely different direction,” continued Allyn. “I think she would be in awe and also think it’s quite cool that what she thought was true in life was actually the opposite – anything that you think is going to happen probably won’t really happen.”
“There are so many places I wanted to go, but I was waiting for that perfect partner, the perfect relationship,” said Allyn. “South of France, was one of them, and Venice, Italy, going on a gondola ride, going on an African safari, now that I am in my mid to late thirties, I’m like, wait, why am I waiting?”
Allyn has documented her solo honeymoon experience to inspire young single women on her social media.
“People really loved that content, I think I’ve probably had a thousand messages of women planning their own me-moons,” gushed Allyn. “It’s been really cool to know that’s inspired women to solo travel, and I would say you’re not going to regret it.”
“It’s such an empowering feeling to know I was brave, I did this when I’m doing something for myself, you know, I’m an interesting person that wants to explore the world,” continued Allyn. “When you’re on it’s less scary – I’ve made some videos to hopefully help women go through all the nuances of solo travel, like dining alone.”
Most of Allyn's comments from followers has been positive except for a few trolls who threw shade at her.
“It’s always just random men that are trolls and I’m like, if it’s not clear, like this page is not for you so please leave,” stated Allyn. “I am not asking you to be part of this conversation, but it’s always misogynistic, insecure men that make comments.”
“Egg freezing in America is insanely expensive and only really big tech companies or big corporations usually cover it,” explained Allyn. “Otherwise it can be around $18,000 and so I couldn’t afford that.”
Allyn put motherhood aside by freezing her eggs even though it didn't quite work out. Her body didn't take the medicine, so she had to stop taking it. But that doesn't mean she has given up.
“My body just wasn’t picking up the medicine correctly, my follicles were not growing, so after eight days, I had to stop,” said the influencer. “Hopefully this spring and probably next fall too I’ll try freezing again and so once I do that, I think I’m really going to have a lot of peace of mind.”
People nowadays are more open to unconventional ways of being and Allyn believes that everyone is different and chooses the path that is right for them.
“Now that I’m 37, I’ve seen a lot of women go on different paths and one is not better than the other, you’re not instantly happy if you’re married, you’re not instantly happy if you’re a mother,” said Allyn. “”In some ways, I think being more independent and single is easier.”
“I can just scroll in bed in the morning, I can look up flights next week if I want to go somewhere, the world is my oyster right now,” said Allyn. “I definitely have real pressures but one life is not better than another, I think you just have to realize that your life is unique and you have to accept that.”
To see Allyn's journey on social media, click on the link below.
Source: NY Post